The Diversity Projekt

Intentions and Dimensions of Belonging

February 21, 2010 // No Comments »

Anyone who has been around TDP for a while, knows that I struggle a lot with finding a real, meaningful sense of community. I don’t always feel like I belong. I’ve always felt not quite a part of, floating on the margins. I am transnational – German and American. I am a military kid.  These things complicate how the world seems me and how I perceive that I fit into the world. My family is no exception to that. I look different than the rest of my family. They are white. I am not. Although we rarely if ever speak of the elephant in the room, there is no denying that.  TDP’s recent crisis of identity has a lot to do with my  not wanting to hurt my family, nor do I want to alienate them through my words. Nevertheless, I can only speak to my experiences growing up and how they have and continue to impact my quest for self. Their perceptions of certain events often differ from mine. That doesn’t make either of our experiences more or less valid. I think sometimes parents don’t want to see certain things and I think children often process events and experiences differently. The lenses through which we view the world are often very different.

How I see myself within my own family is no exception. Aesthetics are the most obvious. I knew that I didn’t look like my parents or sister from a young age.  The elephant in the room was glaring to everyone including my family, but no one really talked about it more than one or two times.  This had a profound impact on my identify formation, my sense of self.   For good or bad, I have grown comfortable living in-between various worlds. While I share many of the same values as my family, an ideological divide has grown over the years. I am queer and left leaning (hell, I am almost horizontal). We have different ideas about fairness, justice, race, class, gender,…..privilege. My mother often dismisses my positions by making some sort of generation/age statement….as if my almost 30 years on the planet haven’t given me the right to form equally valued opinions about the world around me. Again….different does not equate to of more or lesser value.

My bi-cultural, transnational identity is probably the most complicated and murky of my interlocking identities. Depending on which site of the ocean I am standing on (or with whom I am speaking), I am either too German or too American.  The notion that both can co-exist equally at the same time seems unfathomable to some, even to me at times.  I often feel myself pressured to choose, or even more painful, having to defend one or the other. I am equally protective and defensive (and apologetic) about both. Perhaps it wasn’t just me that was different, but my entire family.  I always felt that it was much easier for my sister to fit into both worlds, despite her linguistic barrier. People are less likely to challenge her German-ness. Clearly I don’t fit the image of a stereotypical German. It has taken me a long time to begin to come to terms with my mixed-race identity.  It’s something I struggle with today.

It is disappointing that while I feel a part of several communities that are dear to me, I am most affected by the communities (and people) who have rejected me.  I am not sure if my bio-father disappearing constitutes his rejecting me.  I am not exactly sure what happened back then.  Nevertheless, his current behavior definitely feels like rejection.  How can you know that your child is out there (and know how how to find her), yet make absolutely no effort to connect?  How can you have more regard for the children of the women you date than for those you have a biological connection to?  Can you sense my anger? I realize that DNA isn’t enough to build a true foundation on,  but it should be enough for some kind of meaningful contact…..a card maybe?! I hate to admit it but, he has caused more  upheaval and trauma in my life over the last 2 years than in the previous 28.

I don’t really believe in new years resolutions. Every new day is an opportunity for re-birth and change. Nevertheless, as I am turning 30 this year, I did set a few goals for myself. Instead of focusing on where I feel like I don’t belong, I want to make more of an effort to accept the many ways I am valued and accepted in my life.  Although it may not seem overtly obvious all the time, I am a part of several meaningful and vital communities.  Although I am from the other side of the Atlantic, I feel very much apart of the Black German community here in America. I identify more with their alienation than the alienation of my cohorts in Germany.  Although it is complicated, I am certainly more accepted here.

I feel extremely blessed to be part of the Swirl family.  It’s one of the only communities in my life where I don’t feel pressure to identify or define myself.  In fact, I am not sure if any of us have actually asked each other the million dollar question – “What are you?”   It is such a relief to just be accepted, regardless of my “makeup”.  I have the opportunity to help other mixed-folk feel good about their diversity – creating a community that I did not have growing up.  I want mixed-kids to develop a positive self-image and feel proud of their mixed heritage.

As of late I also feel very strongly connected to “my” butch-femme community. I say “my” bf community because I am not sure if there is one bf community per se. It’s a community of my own choosing, woven together not necessarily by geography but by shared values, ethics and mutual respect and adoration. While I have been femme as long as I can remember, this community aspect of my life is new and I haven’t really wrapped my mind around it sufficiently. So stay tuned as there is definitely more to come on this. Nevertheless, I think it represents a powerful model for community formation. It’s intentional, organic, and profoundly life-altering. I can’t wake up tomorrow and choose not to be American or German. I am not saying that I want to stop being one or the other. That’s not the point that I am coming to. However, the expectations, pressures, stereotypes and preconceived notions that come along with those identities are not of my own making. It has taken me years to feel empowered as a mixed-chick. Mind you, I say mixed chick…..not as German or American. I find beauty and joy in my mixedness. It’s the only way I actually make sense, how the world makes sense to me. The journey through which I came to consciousness about my mixed identity was very intentional and organic. Hmm, perhaps that is what it is all about.

Posted in Community, Diversity, Family, LGBTQ Issues

Latina? Who, me?

January 8, 2010 // No Comments »

I was recently invited to speak at at a conference to discuss the ways in which I live and “navigate multiple, sometimes conflicting identities” – as queer, femme, mixed race, transnational, and how said identities influence how I see “life on the margins.”  The interesting part….I was invited as the “Latina” on the panel. I needed that part repeated. Me, as the resident Latina.

Growing up I thought that I was half German half African American. The Latin aspect only emerged recently when I found my birth father and began talking with his older brother and my half brother. I can’t say that I even have a Latina-consciousness or that I have even really contemplated what that means to me.

I comprehend my gender identity – femme – so much better than my ethnic/cultural identity. I understand it and feel it in every fiber of my being. Being femme is just….its me, my center. I feel profoundly liberated by my femme-ness, precisely because it feels natural and innate without needing to be juxtaposed against something else – butch comes to mind or anything else along the spectrum for that matter. Now, the butch/femme community and the greater LGBT community…that is a bigger can of worms. Nevertheless on a micro level I make complete sense to myself, and really, that’s all that matters. Now, I should back up and qualify that – I didn’t always feel that way. There was a time when I didn’t posses the vocabulary or understanding that described me - ok I am going to leave that train of thought for another day. I digress. Point is I make sense of some of my various identities – femme – and others not so much.

Culturally, I understand and can process being mixed. The individual components rarely ever make sense though. And, honestly…I rarely ever force them to. I know where I belong in the mixed experience. In many ways “home” is far less complicated within the mixed community than any of the other communities that I am a part of.

So, what does it mean for me to be Latina?

Half the time I think that I know very little about what it means to be African American. I do understand the mixed experience – the hybridity. Since ethnic identities are societal/social constructs, can I really claim to be something that I know nothing about? Can culture really be reduced to cuisine, music, and cultural and artistic traditions mixed with a little geographic positioning? If that’s the case, anyone can learn to be any ethnicity of their choosing.  I think not! I do think that ethnicity is something that begins as a communal experience that finds expression in individual identity.  Hmm….I think I just figured out what I am going to talk about…..

I still have a bit of time to consider since the conference is in November. Nevertheless, I should probably get back to the program committee by mid-February since paper/panel submissions are due March 3rd.

Posted in Conferences, Diversity, swirl

Check out ‘Blended Nation’ – Support Swirl!

October 30, 2009 // No Comments »

Please save the date and come to the November 12th event in NYC! Swirl’s founder and executive director, Jen Chau, is featured in the book (Blended Nation) and she will be on a panel with the authors for a talk and book signing.

ALSO FYI – no matter where you are, between November 10th and 12th, we are having a “Swirl Bookfair” with Barnes and Noble. This means that on those days, if you log onto www.barnesandnoble.com/mybookfair, buy books and use a code (10043867), part of the proceeds go to Swirl!

Hope to see you at the NYC event if you are in town!

New York City
Thursday, November 12
Barnes & Noble Booksellers (TriBeCa)
97 Warren St (b/w Greenwich & West St)
7:00pm
(Talk and signing)

Unfortunately I will be unable to make it, but I AM purchasing a copy of the book! Please do the same! Your support enables Swirl to continue to offer special events and advocacy for diversity in American society.

Posted in ChangeBloggers, Diversity, swirl

That’s Not My Closet!

October 17, 2009 // 1 Comment »

This is long overdue. I have had to process this a bit longer than usual, but now some things need to be said. I rarely pray over blog posts. I contemplate, meditate and mull over, but rarely do I actually pray over a post.  Nothing else has allowed me to get past the anger.

Some of you – readers who follow me on Twitter and those I talk to on a daily basis – will know about the recent incident at my church. I have mentioned it vaguely on Twitter, but I’ve had to sit with it for a while before talking or writing about it. The gist of it – after much reflection and some troubling interactions, I decided to stop attending The Well. While I am out in every other aspect of my life, being queer remains complicated when it comes to where I choose to worship (not to be confused with my personal sense of Faith – God and I are great). Yet over the last couple of months, I have grown increasingly uncomfortable and disturbed by being shoved into a closet not of my own making at church.

So, fast forward to a few Sundays ago – I was texting with a friend of mine from the Well. She asked if I was planning on attending that morning. My response “I don’t think I can go back. I am tired of being in someone elses closet.” Little did I know that my rather matter-of-fact comments would create a tidal wave of more disaster than I could have ever imagined. I don’t know specifics, but some sort of announcement was made by said friend about my decision in front of the entire congregation. I was selectively out at The Well. I have grown increasingly uncomfortable with that over the last six months and it contributed to my decision to stop attending.  I received a frantic (and cryptic) voice mail from this friend immediately following, as well as a dozen un-friendings on FB and two marginally sympathetic emails.

Sidenote – I was a little irked at first that my exit was hijacked, but I wish everyone had an ally like her.

For the longest time I thought that remaining in an non-affirming church was the right thing to do. I thought that if every queer person left a non-affirming parish, it was like condoning the hateful theology. I don’t believe that anymore. Reality is that non-affirming churches are hurting people in the name of Christ and that is wrong. By remaining in such an environment means I have a hand in perpetuating that harmful behavior. That is something I refuse to do!

Put whatever spin on it that you like, but non-affirming churches are stepped in homophobia. While individually expressing their “love” for all of God’s children, they spew hate from the pulpit, likening queer folk to the deplorable acts of murders and pedophiles. My whole body cringed that day in church. I was in complete disbelief about what I had just heard, especially since just moments before the same person said he was glad I was at The Well. I can’t even sugar coat it anymore. I can’t make it sound pretty because it isn’t.  Sure you can wrap it in a bow, say you love the person but reject the sin, but, my God, that is hateful!  Hurting people in God’s name…I am sure there’s a commandment about that!

There seems to be a disconnect between scriptural message and the application thereof. Every message of Christ in the Gospels underscore his complete, absolute and unconditional love for all humans, regardless of disposition. Yet, the message from the pulpit towards LGBT individuals (and anyone that is different for that matter) is one of contempt and disgust.

I am not going to waste anyone’s time with a dissection of a handful of scriptural references often spewed completely out of context or some mind-numbing theological diatribe (but here are some great resources and Whosoever has a great book store). However, I will say this without reservation – a church that condemns queer people from the pulpit is culpable in the collective hate and destruction that supposed Christian communities hurl onto queer youths and adults.  Thousands of queer kids are driven to suicide each year by the isolation and hate they experience in their lives – from their families, teachers, peers, and yes, their churches – from people and communities who claim  to love and support them. These churches are equally responsible for the damage that causes. I am sickened that that churches foster such an environment of shame and hate that it forces wonderful, people into closets they would otherwise not be in. I began to feel like I was living in someone elses closet – someone elses space of shame and embarrassment.I refuse to live someone elses lie!  I am neither ashamed nor embarrassed by my sexuality. No more or less than my hetero counterparts.

They may have queer friends, invite them into their lives, let them use their bathroom (sorry, I could not resist), but that does not excuse or negate the underlying prejudice. It doesn’t change the reality of the situation – the conditionality of acceptance, the separate and unequal status in their lives.It is not my responsibility to make people feel good about their bigotry, to spin it so that it sounds less messy.  This is a hate free zone. With that in mind, as you consider adding your comments to this post, know that only constructive, non defaming comments will be approved.  Either add something constructive to the discussion or kindly walk away.

If you are a Christian in a non-affirming church, I truly hope that you have a change of heart, that you rethink the prejudice, hate and damage you sign on to with that decision.

If you are a queer Christian who feels isolated and hurt, know you are not alone. Know that you are loved and cherished exactly how you are here on earth AND before God. Know that at the very least, you have a friend here with me!

Also – check out your local Lutherans Concerned. There are hundreds of Lutheran ELCA parishes that are fully accepting AND affirming of LGBT individuals and families. Rainbow Baptists provides a link for LGBT members within the Baptist communion. And, of course, there are thousands of Metropolitan Community Churches throughout the country.  Whosoever Magazine is also a great online resource, providing a “safe and sacred space” for LGBT Christians.

I will be putting together a list of  loving and affirming community resources under the “community links” tab. If you have any specific links that I should include, please leave a link and brief description in a comment.

Posted in Diversity, Faith/Spirituality, LGBTQ Issues

Building Alliances, One Millenial at a Time

October 13, 2009 // No Comments »

Today I would like to announce the launch of NonProfit Millenial Bloggers Alliance, a consortium of next generation leaders in the non profit world doing good for social change. I have participated in several consortium and working groups over the last decade. Some have been great and others not so much!  This one is truly special! I was really excited when Alison Jones of Entry Level Living asked me to be a part of this new initiative.  To be in the company of my peers, several of them colleagues, is quite amazing.

• Alison Jones, Entry Level Living, @ajlovesya
• Rosetta Thurman, Perspectives from the Pipeline, @rosettathurman
• James Elbaor, From the Desk of Jason Elbaor, @jameselbaor
• Elisa M. Ortiz, Onward and Upward, @emortiz
• Elizabeth Clawson, Nonprofit Periscope, @eclawson
• Trina Isakson, Trina’s Nonprofit Blog, @telleni
• Colleen Dilenschneider, Know Your Bone, @cdilly
• Tera Wozniak Qualls, Social Citizen, @terawozqualls
• Tracey Webb, Black Gives Back, @blkgivesback
• Kevin Gilnack, (Nonprofits + Politics)2.0, @kgilnack

I have followed many of them for quite some time and am am always learning new things from them. More than serving as a mere collective, I am interested to see how we forge partnerships, learn from each other and build capacity beyond our immediate group.

Be sure to add them to your google reader (or whatever blog bookmark that you are using)…and stay tuned!

Posted in ChangeBloggers, Diversity

Time Running Out for Another DreamActivist!

September 23, 2009 // 3 Comments »

Without substantial intervention, Jorge-Alonso Chehade will face a difficult choice Friday morning. He will either get on a plane to Peru, a country that has become foreign to him, or he will choose to remain in the US to fight for the passage of the Dream Act and other young adults like him. Alonso is a Dream Activist – one of tens of thousands of young adults who came to the US as young children who undocumented. He has been courageously fighting is deportation, and time is up Friday morning.  DHS is forcing him to leave the United States, a country that has been his home for more than 8 years.

I just got home from a Dream Activist PA meeting at Temple U. More than 10 students came together to learn about the Dream Act and how they can make a difference in the lives of students like Alonso. Two Dreamers attended, as well as Reagan Cooper of PICC (Pennsylvania Immigration & Citizenship Coalition). This  meeting served as a great initial brainstorming session on how to grow the capacity of the PA movement – how to cultivate members, forge partnerships with community organizations, and gain the support of our local representatives across the state.

For extensive coverage of Alonso’s case and other Dream Activists, check out Citizen Orange!

Posted in Activism, ChangeBloggers, Diversity, Pro-Migrant

Embracing Diversity or Eroticizing Women of Color

August 26, 2009 // 1 Comment »

Miss Belgium

I don’t quite understand the world’s fascination with beauty pageants – parading human beings around like property. Nevertheless, I stumbled upon the intro to Miss Universe 2009 on Sunday night.  After a glance of Zeynep Sever, Miss Belgium and was curious to see who was representing the various other European nations present. Zeynep is originally from Turkey. She and her mother moved to Belgium when she was 12. After winning the title, she quickly found herself in the middle of a charged racial debate over whether a non-Belgian (read, not white) should be allowed to win the crown and represent Belgium at the Miss Universe or Miss World competitions. Because…well, we all know all Belgians have blond hair, blue eyes and are white, right?

Miss Switzerland

This same debate was playing itself out in other European countries. I discussed the controversy in several blog posts when Whitney Toyloy was crowned Miss Switzerland last fall. Many protestors argued that she could not adequately represent Switzerland, because she wasn’t actually Swiss.  (Age was another lesser factor compared to her ethnic makeup.)  She is of American, Chinese, Panamanian and Swiss heritage.  Some even called for pageant officials to rename the competition “Miss Multiculti” to more ‘accurately’ reflect who was wearing the crown. This rests on the assumption that to be Swiss is the white, a narrow and highly inaccurate reflection of the actual demographics of the Swiss population.

In the same month, Avalon-Chanel Weyzig, who is half Indonesian, won the Miss Netherlands competition. She received far less brumtata about her win.  The fodder took on a different dimension. A great deal of it focused on how exotic she is, that being ethnic gives her a particular edge over other contestants. One reporter went so far as to say that her look catapulted her within the top five likely contenders to win the crown. The response? Avalon received an increase in hits on a pageant betting site.

Miss Netherlands

Fast forward to December 2009 – Chloe Mortaud is crowned Miss France. She is French and African American, Creole in fact. France has crowned several black and mixed women over the last 10 years or so. Yet, there was still debate around her win. Prior winners from former French colonies. The rucus surrounding the current Miss France stems from her American roots. Race seems to be somewhat secondary, although there several off colored racial remarks posted to various list servs.

Miss France

All of this intrigues me. I am most intrigued by the comments left on various blogs and sites that announced these contest winners. Many comments are blatantly racist and xenophobic. “Why are foreigners representing [fill in the blank].” “The contest should be renamed Miss Multikulti” “Foreigners are taking over. We will be a Muslim country before you know it.” “I am not being racist….just protecting my culture.” ….and so forth!

So, is the fact that more European countries are awarding their highest pageant titles to mixedchicks a sign of  a shift in the tide? Or, is it just another way in which white Europeans are choosing to eroticize women of color?

Posted in Diversity, Politics, Racism

Ramadan Mubarak

August 21, 2009 // No Comments »

Fasting is an integral part of many spiritual traditions, especially among the Abrahamic faiths (Judaism, Christianity and Islam). My experience with fasting came as I grew closer to my dad’s faith – Eastern Orthodox. Fasting is an integral part of every aspect of the Church Year. There are major fasts – Nativity, Lenten, etc., as well as minor fasts – every Wednesday and Friday (of varying degrees and with some exceptions). Fasting is integral to working out our salvation here in earth.

Saturday August 22 is the first day of Ramadan, a month of fasting for millions of Muslims throughout the world. It is not only about fasting from food, it also represents a time of looking inward – a time for prayer, reflection and giving of oneself.  The aim is spiritual purification through the abstinence from things of this world.

Take a minute to check out some of my favorite Muslim blogs:

Ramadan Kareem

Belief.Net – Hungry for Ramadan

CAIR-PA (Council on American Islamic Relations, Philadelphia Chapter) is hosting several Inter-Faith Ramadan gatherins. I will be attending many of them and I encourage you to do the same. Below is a list of some of the events going on in the Philadelphia area:

Posted in Community, Diversity, Faith/Spirituality

The New Voter – MixedFolk Style

August 11, 2009 // No Comments »

In mid-June of this year, SwirlPhilly hosted Philadelphia’s first official Loving Day events.  We took a trip to the Franklin Institute for a viewin of their “RACE: Are we really so different?” exhibit. We also received permission to hold a discussion within the exhibit space. It was a great opportunity for us to share our impressions of the exhibit and how it fits into the legacy of Loving Day for us. Other topics included the fluidity and social construction of race and racial identities and the impact of being trans-national and mixed in U.S. society. We also talked about the marriage fight being waged across the country – same sex marriage.  Swirl National released talking points just a few days before the event. Individual chapters have always bridged the gap between mixed and lgbt communities, and I am so very proud and excited that we are doing so in a more intentional way.

Another guest was the University of Maryland “News21 team” who were there to film our Loving Day events. They filmed our exhibit tour as well as the discussion. A few of us also had the opportunity to speak with them individual on the day of the event and a few weeks later. Chris and Nick came back to interview a few SwirlPhilly folk – three of us were chosen for the “Beyond Other” video segment.

WHO:

Chris Matthews, 25, is an M.J. candidate at the Philip Merrill College of Journalism. He has interned at Fox News Channel, the Mount Hope Monitor, washingtonpost.com and Salon.com. He has reported on the U.S. Congress, Bronx politics and a hostage standoff. Matthews aspires to be a foreign correspondent and has traveled widely, including seven-month stints in Paris and Australia, where he was a semi-professional lacrosse player. He received his B.A. in political science from Kenyon College in Ohio. Born in Houston but raised in Manhattan, he is a passionate fan of the Astros, Rockets and the N.Y. football Giants. He can be reached at Christopher.Matthews@news21.com

WHAT:

A team of 12 journalism fellows at the University of Maryland, including two visiting fellows from the University of Missouri and University of Texas at Austin, spent the summer of 2009 taking an in-depth look at how demographic trends are influencing American voting behavior and attitudes as part of News21, a national journalism program. In addition to reporting compelling stories, their goal was to experiment with innovative ways of presenting them. They were guided and edited by a team of experienced faculty and consultants.

So, check out the site, the Mixed Race Section and interviews by several mixed folk on “Beyond Other”, including four Swirlies!

I would love to hear from other mixed people who were raised in a caucasian household or who are trans-national.  How does that influence the way you construct your identity?

Posted in Diversity

Channeling Randy Jackson and Other Craziness…..

August 7, 2009 // No Comments »

I would like to share a recent conversation with you that I had  the other night with my downstairs neighbor’s son – brace yourselves!

When I got home, I forgot that Samson had the last of his food last night. So, I packed up the pooch and off to ShopRite we went. On the way out the door I ran into my downstairs neighbors son.

Him: Oh shit! Is that a pit? I don’t want no trouble.

Me: He is more afraid of you than nothing.

Him: Them dogs are evil and dangerous.

Me: Only if humans make them that way.

Twenty minutes later Samson and I return, dog good and Haagen Daas in hand to find him sitting on the step.

Him: Does he bite?

Me: *sigh* no not really. Like I said, he is more afraid of you than anything. He is a rescue.

Him: So he is dangerous.

Me: No the humans who used him as a bait dog are dangerous.

Him: Do you live here?

Me: Umm..yeah

Him: Are you single?

Me: I am gay!

Him: Nahhh dawg really

Me: Yeah, it happens.

The channeling of Randy Jackson aside, I am always baffled when people find it shocking that I am queer.  In reality, this attitude and response has little to do with me personally.  A friend recently asked if men find it easier to accept women who “look” queer than women who “pass” as straight. I wish it were that simple. Such a conclusion assumes two constructed binaries exist for lesbians and that all of us neatly fit into them. Never mind that  whole host of women identify as queer, dyke, androgynous, und so weiter! And then again what does a lesbian really look like? Is it the butch in a UPS uniform that Sherri Shepard on The View knows, or perhaps it’s the bumper sticker lesbian outfitted with just the right amount of queer insignia?  Which one is the poster child for lesbians? BAH! The reality is that women fall along a whole trajectory of of lesbian/queerness and one of us doesn’t look more or less “the part” than the other.  Each of us represents our own little universe of  how we have personally constructed our identities.

I have an extremely visceral reaction when people label certain breeds as “dangerous”.  In reality, it’s humans who condition dogs to be aggressive and violent – both intentionally and unintentionally.  Dogs are the most loving and loyal creatures. They also have an amazing capacity to forgive, making the abuse that much  more deplorable! The basics – if you don’t take care of your dog, feed your dog, care for his/her health needs, exercise your dog (especially larger breeds), your dog’s build up energy can (and many times does) turn into aggression. When I work crazy hours and Samson’s walking time gets cut in half, he goes all kinds of crazy. He needs his walks or my home will bear the brunt of his pent up energy. Trust me, not pretty! Also, don’t abuse your dog, then point blame on him/her for being aggressive in return. Violence begets violence! It is conditioned, not innate!

This guy’s reaction to my dog and my queerness is cut from the same cloth – society’s need to live within a world set in binaries – white or black, gay or straight, good or evil, friend or enemy.  It is simple and easy that way! Why complicate something when you don’t need to, right?  People have  little desire (if any) to understand or accept that there are a myriad of identities, positions,  options and truths at play that are not necessarily diametrically opposed to each other. In fact, people are outright fearful of ambiguity. When will be come to realize that difference and diversity are just that…different, not place holders along someone’s poorly constructed spectrum intent on entrenching and fossilizing heteronormative gender binaries? Hmm…..

Posted in Diversity, Personal Life